same sex wedding

Peter and Mark: Cockney Yorkshire Mash-Up

We think this wedding looks like a riot! What fun Peter and Mark had celebrating with their friends and family – alongside renowned pearly queen Ida Barr, who led a rather competitive game of bingo and a conga around the Centre Hall.

We love that Peter and Mark used all areas of the house, from getting dressed in their blue suits in the Dressing Room, to turning the Dining Room into an ‘East End boozer’.

It seems Hedsor House lived up to the concept of a ‘blank canvas’…

Hedsor enabled us to create exactly the day we wanted, making our dreams and crazy ideas come alive. Our guests are still raving about how all our different ideas were realised to perfection with a stunning backdrop.
— Peter

Why Hedsor House?

It was wonderful to discover that one of the best wedding venues in the country was only 1/4 mile from my house - hidden up a long drive which I had driven past hundreds of times.

In contrast to other venues, Hedsor is a beautiful blank canvas. You can truly create a ceremony and day to meet your exact needs. Other places we visited simply went through an exact day plan and usage of rooms that all other couples follow too.

Details of the Day

Hedsor said to us, “what do you want to do and how can we help you make it happen?” We loved that.
— Peter

The Style: To reflect both of our backgrounds, the wedding was a Cockney Yorkshire Mash-Up - with everything reflecting this including canapés, drinks, food, music, décor and entertainment!

The Ceremony: Our ceremony was held in the Centre Hall with its beautiful balcony and domed ceiling. We had lighting projections of the Yorkshire Rose and Tower Bridge on the walls to reflect our Cockney Yorkshire theme. We had a lovely, funny registrar called Jo who was incredibly excited as it was her first same-sex wedding! We walked up the aisle to David Bowie’s ‘Absolute Beginners.’

The Flowers: We had an enormous display of white lilies which looked great and gave out a powerful aroma. It was so lovely to be able to give our guests a bunch of flowers to take home. I think I want £200 worth of lilies in my house every week!

The Food and Drink: Our menu was a mix of Cockney and Yorkshire, created especially for us by caterer Melissa Webb. Canapés included nibbles of Cockney special smoked eel plus mini Yorkshire puddings topped with roast beef and mushy peas. Our starter was the Yorkshire inspired Whitby Crab served in the shell on a bed of sea salt. The main was chicken and pancetta pie served ‘family style’ with designated pie servers! We finished it all off with a trio of desserts including poached pear, Yorkshire Pudding drizzled with golden syrup, and rhubarb crumble ice cream.

In addition to the wines provided by Hedsor, we brought in our own London and Yorkshire beers and even built our own East End boozer in the Dining Room!

The Cake: The cake that wasn’t actually a cake! We opted for rounds of cheese decorated with flowers and figs, topped with 2 Lego grooms – a real talking point.

The Entertainment: Our speeches were interrupted by the arrival of cockney music hall star, Ida Barr, a pearly queen who sang a selection of music hall songs to a hip-hop beat. That was before leading the guests in a conga to do the hokey cokey back in the Centre Hall!

We had so much fun thanks to the entertainment on offer. Over afternoon tea in Ida’s salon there were a few games of bingo whilst others danced in the Centre Hall. Some made the most of the East End boozer we had set up, wandered the Hedsor grounds, or put their best photo face on in our black London cab photo booth!

The Suits: We wore lovely blue suits, white shirts and red socks and ties for a splash of colour! Our suits had our names embroidered inside which was a lovely touch.

The Photographer: Matt from Boy Oh Boy Photography stayed with us throughout the day from the start until sunset. He also did a pre-wedding shoot with us around the streets of London.

Mark and Peter’s advice to future couples

Keep on top of your budget - but use Hedsor to the full to create the backdrop for your dreams. Don’t split everyone up into lots of different rooms in the evening and make sure that people know where and when they need to be through the day or they will wander off. Oh, and don’t run out of booze!

The Suppliers

Catering: Melissa Webb / Photographer: Boy Oh Boy / Flowers: The Fruit Market, Bourne End; Silhouette Artist: Alison Russell / Pearly Queen: Ida Barr (Chris Green) / Dance Lessons: Wedding Day Dance 

Huge thanks to Mark and Peter for permission to use a selection of photography from Boy Oh Boy!


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Andrew and Richard: Midsummer Day’s Celebration

We are proud that Hedsor House is a true blank canvas; whatever your dream celebration, we can most likely help you to make it happen!

So when Andrew and Richard came to us with their incredible ideas for a special midsummer marriage here at Hedsor, we were so excited to see how they would transform our beautiful spaces to achieve their grand designs.

We spoke to Andrew and Richard to hear more about their day and how they wove the concept of ‘sprezzatura’ into their special celebration…

It has been a delight having the freedom to create a spectacular ‘reconstructed’ marriage ceremony in the total privacy of this stunning Georgian mansion and gardens.
— Andrew

Why Hedsor House? 

"Location, location, location. The house has spectacular rooms, wonderful gardens, privacy and we loved that it is exclusive use. The only guests at the house are your own wedding guests.  We were allowed the flexibility of all reasonable requests to create an extraordinary and entrancing day of entertainments.

Details of the Day 

The Theme: We wanted our day to be absolutely flawless but also feel relaxed and inclusive. So we focused on the concept of ‘sprezzatura’, an Italian word that reflects ‘the art of studied nonchalance’… It means to conduct something perfectly but without apparent effort. Based on comments from our guests, we certainly feel as though we achieved this!

The Suits: We had Nehru under-suits of ivory trimmed with gold. We also had handcrafted jackets for the grooms and pageboy, each in separate colours of Duppion silk made in India. This was overlaid with gold arabesque designs that were made exclusively for us!

The Flowers: We went for summer floristry at its more opulent, though we also wanted it to look like a fresh herbaceous border brought indoors. This reflected the sprezzatura concept we were going for.

The Ceremony: We deconstructed the marriage ceremony, then ‘reconstructed’ it to incorporate elements relevant to us – from neopagan hand-fasting to international speakers on LGBT battles past and forward.  For example, we had a speech from the former Health Minister who championed Civil Partnership in Parliament.

We have been very touched by so many guests saying it is the best wedding day they have ever been to!
— Andrew

The Reception: We had an added surprise for our guests in line with the concept of a Midsummer Day’s Dream; a film production company set up a full-blown snow scene in the oak-panelled Ballroom. Snow falling in the middle of summer was an incredibly atmospheric addition!

The Food and Drink: Our caterers, Create Food, were wonderful. They created two dishes to our exact specification that we had designed to remind us of holidays. One included succulent pink duck breasts that everybody commented on!

The Entertainment: Entertainment was high on our agenda. Two very prominent stars of the West End performed in the Centre Hall, and the London Gay Men’s Chorus Ensemble entertained our guests in the Sunken Garden. This was alongside international tenor Harry Nicoll and the Aurai Trio.

The Photography: One of our guests is an internationally renowned cameraman, and our official photographer is a rising star. Both were asked to take informal and non-posed photos. However, our posed shot with all the guests in the stunning Sunken Garden from the upper balcony? Spectacular!

Plan every last detail and ensure performers know what they are doing – rehearse! Also make sure the guests have a clear vision of what is expected of them by putting timings in the Order of Service – everyone can prepare themselves, and therefore relax!
— Richard

The Suppliers

Catering: Create FoodBloomberry Juices / Flowers: Floral Designs Ltd / Wedding Jackets: Malcolm Hall / Wedding under-suit: Tailor Made London / Photographer: Paul Nicholas Dyke / Light, Sound & Stage: Visions Group / Revelry & Entertainment: Dreamtime Productions (Matthew Wren-Andrew, Kieran Brown, Shona White, Niall Bailey) / Harry Nicoll, (Tenor ‘Caro Mio Ben’) / London Gay Mens Chorus, Simon Sharp (Artistic Director) & the A Capella Stars / Pauline Savage and The Aurai Trio /Snow Theming: Snow Business 


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